Hello you, the jaded!
So, the same person from the last blog is asking me whether she should still take a job if she thinks she will be unhappy there. Here is the BBM conversation. I am "C", she is "A":
A: C, I don't know If I can handle
A: Its going to be HARD
A: U know
A: Especially work environment
A: And housing environment
A: I'm not going to be happy
C: U won't be
C: That's true
C: But there are things that can help
A: Like
C: 1) Keep a simple mindset, you are there to learn... Immerse yourself in books, articles, whatever that will help you learn
C: 2) Drink the coffee you want, no SB? Easy, we send it to u,
C: 3) Pamper yourself!! If you like something, BUY IT! You are sacrificing enough
A: I know
A: Is it worth it
C: 4) TAKE ALL THE VACATIONS!! Cash in your tickets! Job not done, too much to do, blah blah blah! Its in your contract, insist on it! In fact, make them book and buy (YES BUY!!) all the tickets in advance, when you are scheduled for them
A: Enno
A: Every 9 weeks
A: 2 weeks off
A: Its in contract
C: 5) Schedule skype appointments with your friends/family and let them know YOU NEED THEM TO BE THERE!! Whatever happens!
A: U don't think I should focus on social life
A: Now
A: inno I'm 28
A: Soon
A: U know
C: Back to 4) get a calendar, mark 9weeks in one color high lighting pen, the other 2 weeks with another, keep on doing it until u have the 5 2-week vacations u r contracted, make sure they have tickets ready BEFORE and yes BEFORE u get to Abuja! Paid and ready!!
C: 6) You are 28! You've had 28 yrs to socialise and babe, let's be honest, you did :p if you want more time, its your choice!
A: Hehe
A: U don't think its time to go somewhere
A: And find someone
A: Bc I def
A: Won't find him
A: Btwn 4 walls
C: 7) Basic negotiation tactic, everything you contract asks for should be ready BEFORE u get there! Not ready, u don't work, simple... There are prerequisites to ur contract, they have to fulfill them ;)
C: 8) As for men, don't look! That will only depress u more! Maybe you'll bump into him on ur way to work or back! Hehe u never know, love usually hits you when u least expect it!
A: Hehe
A: So u think exp
A: Worth it
A: Then
A: Although depressive
C: Yes, worth the experience
A: But it will pay off ?
A: I'm talking career wise
C: Only depressive if u let it be
A: What kind of job
A: Can it get me
A: ?
A: I was thinking office manager
C: Career wise, no one can tell! People flip careers the whole time
C: But a project manager is supposed to multi-task and do things all at once and time manage and and and!!! Hehe so if you can manage a project, u can pretty much manage anything
C: Think of the project as a mini company
A: Although in 2 years
A: This would be my 3rd job
A: ?
C: You're gonna need it to finish the whole year though
A: What
A: Yeah
A: Inno
A: The next time
A: They won't see commitment
A: Someone sees my cv
A: No ?
A: Although now is project
A: Its not job
C: U r a freelancer for the moment, when you write up your new CV u have to make that clear
A: Yeah I know
A: Anyways
A: Hehe
A: Sorry to give u headache
A: But it isn't easy choice
A: No ?
C: Of course it isn't, but honestly, what is easy that is important? Hehe
A: Hehe
A: I dunno
A: Hehe
A: U know I met a few guys
A: This summer
A: And they all told me
A: What the f am I doing in nigeria
A: These r the best years in my life
A: I should be enjoying
A: Lol
C: Haha everyone I tell that I live in china says the same
C: Look, end of the line, do what u think is best
C: Is there a clause in your contract that says u can quit with X # of days notice?
C: If so, and u r not happy, just quit
C: If not, add it
A: 3 months
A: Probation
C: So, add the notice clause too
A: Probation
A: No notice
C: Add the notice clause after the probation period
C: Trust me on this one
C: Always leave urself an option to get out
So the Jaded, what do you think? Should she take the job if there is a good chance she will be miserable?
Let me know your thoughts...
C
